I’ve Been Waiting…

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❤ Miss Kilo

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Clothing & Accessories

  • Dress: Artizana – Yira (Limited Edition) – Mesh Gown @ The Blue Heart Event (today is the last day! go get it! 😮 )
  • Earrings: Cae :: Madison :: Earrings
  • Necklace:  Cae :: Madison :: Necklace

Body & Makeup

  • Hair: TRUTH VIP December – Tinsley
  • Eyeshadow: LIVIA// Kyla Eyeshadow (former Applique item)
  • Nails: #EMPIRE – Coffin Nails – Long
  • Nail Polish: LIVIA::Tranquil Nails [Slink/Omega/Mait/Vista/Tuty]
  • All other body basics found here.

Other Information

  • Background/Pose Prop:  Exposeur – Spanish Patio

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Sakura

On my way to a friend’s event this past Wednesday, I was walking through this garden and thought I’d take a selfie.

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It’s so beautiful here; peaceful.  The scent of sakura in the air simply confirmed it’s spring.  Well, time for me to head over to the event!  Sayunara 😉

❤ Miss Kilo

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Kimono: *:..Silvery K..:*KimonoMesh(Gothic Peacock)FatPack
  • Earrings: (Dahlinks) Fan Earrings – Gold
  • Hair accessories & fan: Astralia – Garden Geisha gacha set pieces
    • Headpiece: Astralia – Garden Geisha set (headpiece black) RARE
    • Hair sticks: Astralia – Garden Geisha set (sticks gold)
    • Handheld fan: Astralia – Garden Geisha set (fan black)

Body & Makeup

  • Hair: TRUTH Apple – Grayscale
  • +Eye Shadow & Lipstick: alaskametro❤ “Sakura” makeup – Catwa @ Bloom
    (I faded the lipstick using my Catwa hud to blend it better for my skin tone but it’s gorgeous no matter how strong/light you apply it)
  • Nails: #EMPIRE – Coffin Nails – Long
  • Nail Polish: LIVIA // Diamond Life Nails (former Applique item)

Other information

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Sunday Best

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I remember watching Steel Magnolias and there’s this line where Anell (played by Daryl Hannah) got a bit fussy about what she was going to wear to church and Truvie (played by the incomparable Dolly Parton, STILL one of my faves) says to her, “God don’t care what you’re wearin’ long as you show up!”  That line always tickled me because there was a truth behind it.  God (or however you choose to address your higher power/guiding force) doesn’t care as long as you worship/praise in their name.

My mom would more than likely disagree with this one.  See, when I was little, my mom would send me off to church with my neighbors.  I would always get dressed in my Sunday best and she would give me a dollar to put in the offering plate, sometimes two. As I got older, I had stopped going for a long time until my mom at one point felt that I needed to go back and I didn’t have a choice in the matter. No, I wasn’t a juvenile delinquent or anything like that. I had just committed the cardinal sin of “losing my religion” before I was bound to the person I “gave my religion” to…legally. Anyway, at that age, my wardrobe was a bit more lax; but still respectful. Even if I had tried to wear jeans, she’d tell me no and change.  For her it wasn’t about showing out; moreso showing respect to your body and the house of the Lord. After all, if you couldn’t be respectful enough to dress up for your Savior, you must not have respect for self.

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Lately, I’ve been missing my mom and little things she made me  do that I didn’t see the point of; one of which was showing up to church in your Sunday best.  So when I saw this dress, it made me think of that line and those moments when I would see all of the churchgoing ladies who get gussied up to simply go to church (or the grocery store or anywhere, really) and chuckled to myself as I put it on, getting ready for my Sunday.

It’s funny the little things are what I miss the most. Things that made no sense that , depending on the day and the level of noise in my head, make more sense now that I’m older.

❤ Miss Kilo

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Dress: Sn@tch Selena Cocktail Dress
  • Earrings & Necklace: Cae :: Odyssey :: Collection (former Collabor88 item)
  • Nose Ring: (Yummy) Cleopatra Nose Ring – Silver
  • Shoes: –KC– MALIA HEELS / MAITREYA SLINK BELLEZA TONIC

Body & Makeup

Backdrop & Other Information

  • Backdrop: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Palm Springs RARE
  • Additional Lighting: Lumipro

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Cheat Day

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When the supplies are running low in the house, it makes sticking to your nutritional regimen a bit difficult. Thank the heavens for coffee & churros to keep me going! And the Cantina over in the Heights makes it just the way I like them; dipped in chocolate and full of all the awesome flavor! Nom nom nom!

❤ Miss Kilo

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Outfit: .Q. Sultry -FATPACK- [Belleza,Hourglass,Maitreya,eBody,Katena] @ Sense Event
  • Nose Ring: (Yummy) Cleopatra Nose Ring – Silver
  • + Earrings: :: SAGA :: Sarah Earrings w.HUD
  • Choker: [Cynful] Love Spell Dress + Choker (sold w/ dress of your choice)
  • Handbag: The Oak – Nina Handbag (former Tres Chic item)
  • Donut Milk: Hazy. I’m Sweet Gacha. Coffee (former Sanarae item)
  • Churros: Pewpew! Churros – Chocolate (former Kustom9 item)

Body & Makeup

Shot on location at The Heights RP Sim (adults only).

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Saying Yes

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I am a people watcher. And in SL, I see more of what I saw IRL among the people here. A lot of us…we are all alike in many ways; especially in how we treat ourselves. It may manifest itself differently from person to person, but the base premise comes from the same place.  And while some revel in it and/or embrace it, some of us torture ourselves with it trying to find a way out…but not always succeeding. I often see so many of us say yes to the wrong things and the wrong people because of our inner struggles of saying yes to ourselves.

So many of us are so quick and able to give the most intimate parts of ourselves to others but then become incredibly stingy and hesitant to give those same gifts to ourselves.  Things like trust, awareness, time, affection, care, love, respect and validation; these are all things we tend to give in hopes of receiving them from others but are so quick to deny ourselves. We rationalize how if we have this person or that person or any person in our lives that we can only then be happy/feel complete/be whole.

But in the same vain, we’re also a people that will uplift and try to instill those same values in our friends who may be suffering as we are in hopes that they too don’t fall into that same pit we live in.  Not because we don’t want to be alone; but because we don’t always feel worthy of the things we give so freely to anyone else.

We say we don’t, but we do.  How do I know this? Because when a relationship of any kind (romantic/platonic/familial…you name it) ends, we always go down the list of all the things we did for that person, stating that they didn’t do the same for us. But do we ever stop and say, “maybe if I had recognized that I deserved all these things in the first place, I wouldn’t have allowed for this to happen to me?”  Probably not. And that’s where the say yes journey should begin.

And I don’t say this to sound like a jerk or bitter or anything that denotes anything other than reality.  We have to treat ourselves better. We have to look into ourselves and figure out who we are, what we want from ourselves and what we want FOR ourselves before we can inflict those expectations on someone else. We have to know who we are and what we really want so we know what we are willing to accept and put up with; what we truly deserve: happiness and fulfillment.  But it starts with looking at yourself honestly and starting to really strip away the layers to get to your inner emotional meatiness and then working on figuring out the rest.

I’ve been on this journey for a while now; learning more about who I am, what I like, what I don’t like, what I want, what I deserve and just what I’m willing to put up with in order to achieve it.  It’s been a hard journey and it gets lonely at times.  But by saying yes to myself, vowing to myself to view myself better and love myself better, I’ve been able to say yes to myself more instead of saying it to the wrong people, situations, ideas or things.

Just a little food for thought on this Wednesday afternoon.

❤ Miss Kilo

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Top: Sn@tch Lala Crochet Tank Top
  • Jeans: .::Dead Dollz::. Violet Jeans Pearls (former Fifty Linden Friday item)
  • +Earrings: :: SAGA :: Dalia Earrings w.HUD
  • Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Maitreya

Body & Makeup

Other Information

  • Chair: Trompe Loeil – Josette Settee PG (former Shop Your Heart Out gift)
  • Backdrop: anxiety %puddin (former Rewind item)

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