Saying Yes

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I am a people watcher. And in SL, I see more of what I saw IRL among the people here. A lot of us…we are all alike in many ways; especially in how we treat ourselves. It may manifest itself differently from person to person, but the base premise comes from the same place.  And while some revel in it and/or embrace it, some of us torture ourselves with it trying to find a way out…but not always succeeding. I often see so many of us say yes to the wrong things and the wrong people because of our inner struggles of saying yes to ourselves.

So many of us are so quick and able to give the most intimate parts of ourselves to others but then become incredibly stingy and hesitant to give those same gifts to ourselves.  Things like trust, awareness, time, affection, care, love, respect and validation; these are all things we tend to give in hopes of receiving them from others but are so quick to deny ourselves. We rationalize how if we have this person or that person or any person in our lives that we can only then be happy/feel complete/be whole.

But in the same vain, we’re also a people that will uplift and try to instill those same values in our friends who may be suffering as we are in hopes that they too don’t fall into that same pit we live in.  Not because we don’t want to be alone; but because we don’t always feel worthy of the things we give so freely to anyone else.

We say we don’t, but we do.  How do I know this? Because when a relationship of any kind (romantic/platonic/familial…you name it) ends, we always go down the list of all the things we did for that person, stating that they didn’t do the same for us. But do we ever stop and say, “maybe if I had recognized that I deserved all these things in the first place, I wouldn’t have allowed for this to happen to me?”  Probably not. And that’s where the say yes journey should begin.

And I don’t say this to sound like a jerk or bitter or anything that denotes anything other than reality.  We have to treat ourselves better. We have to look into ourselves and figure out who we are, what we want from ourselves and what we want FOR ourselves before we can inflict those expectations on someone else. We have to know who we are and what we really want so we know what we are willing to accept and put up with; what we truly deserve: happiness and fulfillment.  But it starts with looking at yourself honestly and starting to really strip away the layers to get to your inner emotional meatiness and then working on figuring out the rest.

I’ve been on this journey for a while now; learning more about who I am, what I like, what I don’t like, what I want, what I deserve and just what I’m willing to put up with in order to achieve it.  It’s been a hard journey and it gets lonely at times.  But by saying yes to myself, vowing to myself to view myself better and love myself better, I’ve been able to say yes to myself more instead of saying it to the wrong people, situations, ideas or things.

Just a little food for thought on this Wednesday afternoon.

❤ Miss Kilo

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Top: Sn@tch Lala Crochet Tank Top
  • Jeans: .::Dead Dollz::. Violet Jeans Pearls (former Fifty Linden Friday item)
  • +Earrings: :: SAGA :: Dalia Earrings w.HUD
  • Ring: (Yummy) Diamond Solitaire Ring – Maitreya

Body & Makeup

Other Information

  • Chair: Trompe Loeil – Josette Settee PG (former Shop Your Heart Out gift)
  • Backdrop: anxiety %puddin (former Rewind item)

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Lost in the Backyard

“It’s been too long
Don’t think I’ve seen you smile at me for quite a while
And we’re too busy doing things
We haven’t noticed what’s missing
Where’s the fun we used to have?”

~ Natasha Bedingfield

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I think sometimes we forget that we have to embrace the childlike parts of ourselves in order to survive being an adult and doing adult things.  Especially when we feel a little lost.  We should embrace that fearlessness we once had as children, be bold and brave and simply…let go.

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DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

On Me…

  • Top: [Cynful] Chilli Jersey (bra from set)
  • Jeans:[Cynful] Anyday Skinny Jeans
  • Earrings: [Cynful] Chilli Jersey Earrings
    * All 3 Cynful items are now in mainstore (previously released at Rewind: Throwback 90’s event)
  • Sneakers: FLITE. Retro Gliders V2 Fatpack
    *limited edition, supplies running out!

On Aura…

Body & Makeup

  • Hair: #Foxy – Regan Hair (Natural Ombres)
    former Collabor88 item; avail in mainstore
  • Nail Polish: LIVIA::Leila Beauty Set
  • Basic Body Information can be found here: Basics

Props

  • {what next} Adventure Playground Seesaw
  • .S&S. Tree House Set
    Former Arcade Item

Windlight: Nacon’s Sweet Dream

Relax, Relate & Release…on the Nile

Shot on location at: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Bazinga/13/225/2405

So after an amazing night partying with with my fellow Sorors honoring my sister Stevie’s 10th year in Second Life, we decided it was time to exhale and relax…on the Nile…

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If you have never been to The Nile  [A Second Life Relaxation Experience], it is the most wonderful experience!  For one to two hours, you get to experience yoga, tai-chi, aerobics, African dance and Indian dance. LP Kidd (same name inworld) has managed to capture a tranquil audio, visual and physical experience that will put your mind, body and soul at ease.

Be sure to dress for comfort. Since this is a relaxing experience, don’t come in jeans or anything tight…you want to be able reaaally stretch those limbs. When you land, you can also get yourself some winged armbands to become one with the experience. Step on the footprints and join the session and off you go to live and enjoy the experience of yoga on the Nile. And if you’re not quite ready to join in, there’s also a few drums available for you to sit on and join in the musical serenity.

Held once a month, this is an event you can look forward to that’s relaxing and FREE. That’s right…FREE!  If you want to know more about this event, please login and join: secondlife:///app/group/9486e007-13f7-e231-61c8-ac6616443a23/about

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Meanwhile, I’m going to relax, relate & release…hope to see you on the barge to the Nile!

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Bikini Top: Zaara [Goa party] : 2 Morjim bikini RARE
    former Arcade gacha item
  • Pants: Zaara [Goa party] : 5 Arpora Fishermans pants *so chic*
    former Arcade gacha item
  • Earrings: [Cynful] Chilli Jersey Earrings
    Available at the Rewind: Throwback 90’s Event until 02/28/2017 [Event SLurl]
  • Ring on right finger: {MeaCulpa} Ring O Silver  Leash Holder

Body & Makeup

  • Hair: #Foxy – Regan Hair (Natural Ombres)
    at Collabor88 until 03/01/2017 [Event SLurl]
  • Basic Body Information can be found here: Basics

Touch

Long distance love can be hard at times…

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You’re away from that special person. Desires mount. Longing builds…and you’re left wanting…until your fingers take the walk down the path you wish your lover’s touch would.

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I have to admit: though I can’t wait to feel my love’s touch…I love that my love…loves watching …

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I dress sexy for my love. Simone by Dafnis helps me give her that something extra to want to play with… strings to pull, lace to tear, all little tools to help…touch…

Ciao…

DEETS

Clothing & Accessories

  • Lingerie: *dafnis FAT PACK SIMONE – red
  • Shoes: JD – Tiffany Leather
    JD is rebranding and in a temp location for now.
  • Earrings: [Cynful] Chilli Jersey Earrings
    Available at the Rewind: Throwback 90’s Event until 02/28/2017 [Event SLurl]
  • Necklace: CODEX_Affair plate for F
    Part of a set.  Can be given to your counterpart.
  • Ring on right finger: {MeaCulpa} Ring O Silver  Leash Holder

Body & Makeup

  • Hair: Magika – 01 – Hunter
  • Eye Shadow: LIVIA::London Liner
  • Lipstick: LIVIA::Natural Shine Lipstick
  • Nail Polish: {ZOZ} Mine in Lust (M/V Duo)
    *now putting out combos for Maitreya and Vista Hands! VERY convenient! 😀
  • Basic Body Information can be found here: Basics

Props & Location

  • Props: .Birch Long Distance Lover – Dildo
    At Kinky Monthly until 02/28/2017 [Event SLurl]
  • Furniture: [CIRCA] “Kiss Me” Room Collection
    At the SWANK Event until 02/28/2017 [Event SLurl]
  • Room: Metropolitan Skybox by Venue
  • Lighting by Lumipro [SLurl | MP]